I’m in a good deal of pain now. Definitely an outbreak. Damn it. DJ had planned to come over after work, around 10 tonight. I told him about the outbreak and he said he’d like to just come over and cuddle then. That’s sweet. But I don’t feel happy at all. Apartment’s a mess. I boxed today, which was fun, but I also majorly binged. Just because it’s fruit doesn’t mean it’s ok to eat 10lbs of it. Wanted to go to the gym, but I’m afraid cardio will further aggravate my labia. Augh!!! Maybe just 30min, before my shower…
sex as a trigger?
So I’m concerned that I might have an outbreak coming on. What I thought was razor burn, upon closer examination, actually looks a lot like the tiny sores I had on my first outbreak. I think it may be all the sex, in combination with my period, and breaking my clean HSV diet a little.
thesmalltimemisfit said: Got a hood piercing. Initially caused an OB (be prepared) but then was fine. However having the open piercing might up transfer rates? I’m not sure. I had mine taken out. It never caused another OB but when I lost a lot of weight it became uncomfy.
Ooookay. I’m totally dissuaded. I thought it would be fun, especially because my clit’s kind of buried, but I’m not that difficult to turn on. I think I’ll pass. Thank you! Really appreciate the advice.
Anonymous asked: Hi! :) I am thinking about disclosing this week (HSV2) and would love some advice. It'll have to be over the phone because he lives in a different state which I know isn't ideal, but he's planning on visiting in a few weeks to decide whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing (we've dated in the past) and I would hate to have him get here and feel like I kept something from him. I, personally would want some time to process everything. Does that sound like an ok idea? I'm so nervous!
After hemming and hawing over this problem sooo much myself, I’ve decided that it probably is best to disclose as soon as you can, even if you can’t do it in person. I think it would be unfair to wait until he’s there: it puts you both in an uncomfortable position. You definitely don’t want him to feel pressured into being with you. If he needs more time, telling him in advance will spare you the pain and awkwardness of him doing an about-face. If he realizes that you’re worth the small risk, that knowledge will make your time together that much sweeter. Good luck! ♥
Sooo prior to contracting HSV, I got a couple laser hair removal treatments on my bikini line. I’d like to continue to do so until permanently bare, especially because I worry about razor burn in relation with potential outbreaks. Has anyone gotten any laser hair removal with HSV? I just want to make sure it doesn’t trigger an irritation or anything.
Also been toying with the idea of getting a hood piercing. Anyone tried it?
Anonymous asked: If HSV isn't a concern when it comes to STD panels because it "isn't a big deal" and if its as normal and common as DRs make it seem why's it a moral obligation to disclose that you have it as if you are "less than"? Just curious to know.
It’s a moral obligation because at the end of the day you’re dealing with someone else’s health. Everyone should have the right to decide what is best for them and their bodies, and taking that away from them because you’re uncomfortable and scared of rejection isn’t fair. At the end of the day, the risk of transmission will always be there and they have a right to know they’re taking that chance, as common as it might be. It feels horrible to receive a diagnosis from someone that wasn’t honest with you, and I’m sure it’s even worse if they knew all along.
Also, if you don’t tell someone you are lying by omission and that’s not a good way to start off a relationship anyway. Trust is important and being cognizant of boundaries is as well.
It’s also technically illegal not to tell a partner before having sex with them and there have been court cases where the plaintiff acquired HSV from a partner that knew but didn’t disclose, and won.
Who said anything about disclosure having anything to do with being “less than” anyone? If you’re sniffly and have been wiping your nose all day, I think it’s polite to tell the guy who wants to shake your hand that you don’t want to give him your cold. If he doesn’t give a shit and wants to shake your hand anyway, great. Give him a nice, firm grip. That doesn’t mean he’s better than you. It just means you have something that you could pass to him through contact and so you let him know because it’s the polite fuckin’ thing to do.